Danny is being horrendous. It probably only started at the beginning of May. But it's so bad I can't really remember what it was like to enjoy spending time with him. He's so hateful and mean to me and all the kids. Luckily he still mostly likes Bob. I hope it'll clear up soon. Or at least if it doesn't get better soon I think the end of school will really help. Bob and I went to see Valerie Dimmick about 2 weeks ago. She said we need to be unemotional and set out all the rules and then when he breaks the rules or after 5 minutes of non-compliance we take away his favorite thing for 24 hours. He's currently lost his phone until his grades come up and he's lost basketballs for 48 hours.
Bob and I also talked to Valerie about us when we went there. It was really helpful. She told us how we process information is pretty much exactly opposite. I want to talk it out and he wants to think about it. I've felt for a long time that I carry most of the responsibility for our family and kids. So we got to talk about that. Since he doesn't want to talk about anything I assume he's not thinking about it. And he waits for me to tell him what to do most of the time. So we talked about how we need to set up times to have conversations and then we each take turns telling our view using only "I" statements and then we use all that information to make a decision. It's been really helpful so far.
Sunday, May 18, 2014
Sunday, May 11, 2014
May 11, 2014
Today is mothers day. Bob made norwegian waffles and got me a gift card and flowers and all the kids made me cards. I was in charge of the YW fundraiser to sell mothers day corsages. So this weekend has been busy with that.
Yesterday Bob and Danny and I went to the temple to do some names Bob found. It was great.
Yesterday Bob and Danny and I went to the temple to do some names Bob found. It was great.
Sunday, May 4, 2014
May 4, 2014
Bob got called as the 2nd counselor in the Bishopric again today. We are heartbroken that the Deans are moving to Utah. He lost his job in January and has been look since then for a job and just got one in Salt Lake. So we've known it would be a possibility for a while, but I kept having hope that he'd just find another job here. It will be such a change for our whole family to have them gone.
Anyway, last Sunday Collin announced there would be a new bishop this week. When I heard that I felt like they might need Bob and I prayed and told the Lord that I'm ok with that even though it might mean that I will lose Young Womens. I feel like I can be a little too opinionated with my callings. I felt for a while that I might be the next young womens president. But then a year ago they started talking a lot in conference about hastening the work and I really felt like I wanted to and should be more involved in that. And Bob got called as the ward mission leader and that helped me too to get more involved in missionary work and trying more actively to help the missionaries and to look for people to talk to and befriend. That was exciting and I starting feeling like I would rather keep working on that than be yw president. I think I even prayed about it and said I'd do either, but I'd rather not be president so I could have more time to work on hastening stuff. Maybe I should have just been more obedient and not had an opinion about it or maybe it didn't matter. But I thought of that when they announced there'd be a new Bishop and I felt like I should pray that I wouldn't be so opinionated this time and I would be good with however the Lord needed us. So I wasn't too surprised when they called Bob in. They sustained him today. And he'll do an awesome job. I think it will be great. Our family is in a much easier position now without a new baby and I have kids who can babysit. So I think it'll be much easier this time. Hopefully.
I've been having horrible allergies this season. I've had a stuffy nose and sneezing for 2 months. This week my eyes got really bad. They're red and so itchy. I haven't been able to wear my contacts much. I hope the summer comes soon and that next season I can go back to normal.
Danny has been having knee pain. Probably overuse and some kind of tendonitis. We took him to a physical therapist last week. Hopefully he'll do better now that soccer is done and he's just doing basketball.
Anyway, last Sunday Collin announced there would be a new bishop this week. When I heard that I felt like they might need Bob and I prayed and told the Lord that I'm ok with that even though it might mean that I will lose Young Womens. I feel like I can be a little too opinionated with my callings. I felt for a while that I might be the next young womens president. But then a year ago they started talking a lot in conference about hastening the work and I really felt like I wanted to and should be more involved in that. And Bob got called as the ward mission leader and that helped me too to get more involved in missionary work and trying more actively to help the missionaries and to look for people to talk to and befriend. That was exciting and I starting feeling like I would rather keep working on that than be yw president. I think I even prayed about it and said I'd do either, but I'd rather not be president so I could have more time to work on hastening stuff. Maybe I should have just been more obedient and not had an opinion about it or maybe it didn't matter. But I thought of that when they announced there'd be a new Bishop and I felt like I should pray that I wouldn't be so opinionated this time and I would be good with however the Lord needed us. So I wasn't too surprised when they called Bob in. They sustained him today. And he'll do an awesome job. I think it will be great. Our family is in a much easier position now without a new baby and I have kids who can babysit. So I think it'll be much easier this time. Hopefully.
I've been having horrible allergies this season. I've had a stuffy nose and sneezing for 2 months. This week my eyes got really bad. They're red and so itchy. I haven't been able to wear my contacts much. I hope the summer comes soon and that next season I can go back to normal.
Danny has been having knee pain. Probably overuse and some kind of tendonitis. We took him to a physical therapist last week. Hopefully he'll do better now that soccer is done and he's just doing basketball.
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